Couples

Working with couples requires an active approach on my part. At the beginning of the process, it is critical for me to understand the relational dynamics that each unique couple brings with them. For some, coming to therapy is a mutual desire to improve the communication with their partner for others it may be the wish to change their partner. It is often a little of both.

Often there are past issues and hurt feelings that interfere with the ability to truly trust one another fully. When handled well, therapy can be an effective way to move beyond past hurts to create an understanding of patterns that, when changed, can enrich a relationship.

Therapy can resolve current problems and help couples come to a mutual agreement on issues of money, parenting, infidelity, frequent conflict and emotional distance. Let’s face it; all relationships have periods of ups and downs. The beauty of working on your relationship is that the benefits can be monumental and long lasting.

It is easy to get caught up in what the other person is doing that prevents you from getting your needs met in the relationship. It is more effective to help your partner to get what they need when you also have them helping you to get what you need. There are ways to alter current patterns. Gaining insight into your patterns of relating can create opportunity for change and mutual satisfaction.

Couples counseling can help to resolve issues, decrease conflicts, rebuild trust and create emotional connection and intimacy. It does take two committed partners to make this happen. I have been able to do this with those who are truly there to improve the relationship.

There have been times when one person has already determined that they no longer want to resolve their issues in the relationship. In this case sometimes the goal of therapy becomes how to separate in a respectful manner and in a way that supports children and address personal and family concerns.

I have worked with many family groups to bring an end to estrangement between parents and children, as well as adult siblings. I have helped younger siblings learn how to support one another through the loss of a parent or a major change in the family structure. Each time a connection is regained or developed, the impact can have far reaching effects and enrich the lives of those involved.